“If you have the opportunity to be in the moment where you are about to exit and reflect back on your life, ask yourself. Whose life that I lived for?”
Roxy Saffaie
EFR 417: How to Listen to Our Inner-Most Self to Discover the Path to Self-Love and Wholistic High-Performance with Roxanne Saffaie
I am joined by Roxanne Saffaie, an empowerment coach, Founder of Black Belt Beauty and host of the Black Belt Beauty Radio podcast. She spent her life as makeup artist for celebrities and entertainment, a true veteran in the entertainment industry in all aspects. Her life is all about self-empowerment, business, and beauty that goes beyond the surface. In this episode, Roxy breaks down for us her formula for learning how to get quiet and listen to ourselves so that we put ourselves on the path to true self-love.
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What is Black Belt Beauty all about?
Black Belt Beauty is focused around optimizing life performance through self-development. Self-development lifestyle that optimizes your performance comprises:
Wellness
Integrative Health
Integrative Beauty and
Mindfulness
The decision to move around the world
That’s me listening to myself. Most of the time, I don’t have a plan. My life was certainly not easy as a result of it. Many people, like my family, do not understand what I was doing. It does not create great energy but I have always trusted the guidance system in me. As a result, my continuous trust on that system fortified everything in me.
The reason why I can speak with conviction is because I earned my achievements. Nobody handed it to me. And nobody can take it away from me.
I trusted that I did not need to know all of the answers. I just needed to take that step forward and listen to it.
How do we listen to ourselves?
Journaling has played a huge role in the development of my self-awareness.
I have always been comfortable listening to myself. Although a lot of people are not, you need to invest in writing and develop yourself by going into it. When you are writing, you have the ability to get your thoughts out and have more clarity it. You process your decisions, see your growth and have the time to connect with yourself.
It takes a lot of courage to listen to yourself, especially when external events will try to guide you away from it.
Its more painful to live a life that is not authentically myself. Live your life with no regrets and don’t be afraid of the painful challenges that might come along the way.
How Roxanne stayed on her ground
Greatness was always something I was attracted to. I’m thinking about the underdog, the individual who got punch not just in the ring, but in life. Keep standing up. It’s okay to get punched, fail and feel what it’s like on the ground. It’s not okay to not get up and keep going.
It’s a roadblock that you will eventually face. You can either stop and not move forward or treat it as a stepping stone to greatness. You got to do the work to climb up that stone. It’s going to be hard for sure.
When I look at the woman I am today, who I love very much. I knew I earned it. Because I keep getting back up. I’m my self’s biggest fan. I’m a warrior that moves through life.
Be your own best friend and witness what it feels like to win.
The Five-S Formula
The Five-S Formula is like the way to live your most empowered self. It has to be sequential on this order:
Self-Awareness is the Anchor
The Anchor leads to Self-Connection
Appreciate your identity and it forms your Self-Love
Love yourself and get back up from the tribulations in life that’s Self-Confidence
Bet on yourself and start doing things right, now you build your Self-Trust
Looking back and moving forward
I’m moving through life with so much inspiration. I feel open. I have this belief that we are not just humans. We are an experience. How people respond to me is a sign that I am on my highest path. At that point, things happen. You meet the people, the opportunity comes up and the idea comes up.
If I relied on externally for self-love, self-worth and self-validation, it’s a very dangerous life to live in because it is a variable that can change at any time.
Loving ourselves
Think about what it feels like to really love yourself, hold compassion for it and be on your team. You are not making things harder than you need to. Things are already hard and when you start feeling this connection, you can’t turn back because it’s uncomfortable.
Having emotional independence is not only important for an individual but also for a team dynamic. You are not responsible for your partner’s happiness and vice-versa. You have to cultivate it within yourself, and resonate with one another.
Admiring the fruits of labor
I witnessed my parent s who came from another country, put their hearts and souls to their lives and create things from it. I grew up seeing the value of hard work, and things that you can afford when hard work is put in practice.
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