"It was important to us to cultivate our relationship but to also nourish our friendships. And so, you have to build a level of trust in order to do those things."
May and Chase Chewning
Mar 16, 2022
EFR 584: Trusting Your Partner and Yourself and How to Navigate Time Apart with May Yazdi Chewning
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EFR 584: Trusting Your Partner and Yourself and How to Navigate Time Apart with May Yazdi Chewning
Chase’s wife, May, is back for another intimate conversation about navigating and cultivating strong, healthy relationships.
Chase recently went on a vacation… without May! Why? You’ll have to tune in to learn why, but this brings us to the next question you’re likely wondering: What do you do when your significant other goes on vacation without you?
In this discussion, May and Chase talk about the importance of spending time apart from your significant other and how to approach this time apart with a positive mindset. They share their thoughts and experiences with building trust in a new relationship, dealing with FOMO, and practicing effective, compassionate communication. May and Chase also reflect on where they’re at in their relationship now and how they navigate time apart.
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Key Highlights
Developing individual relationships amongst each of your friends, both your own friends and the friends you and your partner share, is a fundamental aspect of being able to spend time apart without worry or uncertainty.
Acknowledge the benefits of your partner going on this adventure. If they’re going to a place that bring them peace and joy, seeing an artist they love, or the trip is enhancing their life in any way, keep that in mind.
To develop trust with your partner in a new relationship, you have to be confident in yourself first. When you have confidence in yourself, it’s easier to trust and be confident in others. Checking in with each other while apart can be really beneficial, as long as you know each other’s boundaries and don’t set unrealistic expectations of each other.
If you’re trying really hard to keep track of your partner, take a step back and ask yourself why you’re so concerned with where this person is, who they’re with, and what they’re doing. Why is it bothering you? Is there a deeper issue that needs to be addressed and healed? What can calm you down in this moment?
Communicate these concerns or fears with your partner so they can understand, give you assurance, share their own perspective, and prove their trustworthiness. Trust can waver, but communication should never waver.
Set the tone of independence within your relationship as early on as you can.
You should learn from past experiences and past relationships and it’s important that your partner understands how past relationships have affected you, but don’t let that define your relationship.
Powerful Quotes by May and Chase
It was important to us to cultivate our relationship but to also nourish our friendships. And so, you have to build a level of trust in order to do those things.
With communication comes understanding. In a trusting relationship, I feel, if there’s some level of distrust, it’s really just a miscommunication.
How are you going to know how far your trust can go if there’s never an opportunity to test that trust?
To have the best version of you to share with somebody else, you need to have a relationship with yourself, you need to have trust with yourself, you need to have confidence with yourself so that you can show up as that trustworthy, confident person for the other person… and you just pour into each other the whole time.
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