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"Don’t do what you love. Do what you are... We’re not a static organism. I think it’s so important to give yourself permission to change. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to like something different."

Ashley Stahl

Mar 24, 2021

EFR 453: You Turn - Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, and Design Your Dream Career with Ashley Stahl

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Ashley Stahl is a counterterrorism professional turned highly sought-after career coach, TEDx speaker, Forbes blogger, podcaster, and author. In January 2021, she published her first book, You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, and Design Your Dream Career.

She illustrates her approach to getting “unstuck” as traveling from one lilypad to another. The first lilypad is where most people start out: They have a dream (or at least the outline of one) but are too afraid to take the next step thanks to the myriad of what-ifs plaguing their mind.

Getting over to the second lilypad is all about creating a “river channel” by figuring out your unique gift and learning how to harness your primary skillset. It’s about acknowledging that the key to getting unstuck in your career is to not do what you love, but to do what you are.

The third and final lilypad is “a level of dharma” achieved only after consistently putting that skillset into action. Ashley explains that “when you’re vibing in the current of your gifts, what happens is, on the periphery, people start noticing where you’re talented.” When you work only where you thrive, and you own your unique gift, opportunities naturally arise and your career creates itself.

Ashley goes on to share how to get clarity on your best career fit, uncovering your identity, nipping resentment at work in the bud and finding your purpose, and the biggest myths that keep you stuck in your career.

Follow Ashley @ashleystahl

Follow Chase @chase_chewning 

Key Highlights

  • Ashley explains how to get unstuck in life by hopping from the first lilypad to the second and to the third. She addresses the many challenges that everyone will encounter on their personal journey along the way.

  • What did Ashley carry over from her previous career in intelligence into her current work as a coach?

  • Ashley gives her thoughts on identity and why the search for who you truly are can be freeing or limiting depending on how you approach it.

  • How do you address burnout and regain a sense of purpose?

Powerful Quotes by Ashley

The ultimate message of my book is: Don’t do what you love. Do what you are.

Instead of hiring a bunch of life coaches, let life be your coach. [...] When you see your career as this vehicle of experimentation, as a vehicle of self-expression, what happens is you start saying “yes” to opportunities that are in the vein of where you’re gifted, and you start getting opportunities to really do something on a higher level.

Purpose moves. Who you are, moves. We’re not a static organism. I think it’s so important to give yourself permission to change. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to like something different. People don’t give themselves that because there is such a strong egoic desire to maintain an identity.

Buying into identities can free you as much as it can limit you.

Resentment is a sign of burnout. [...] Anytime you have resentment, what you really have is poor boundaries. Resentment is just feedback that you’ve trespassed on your own boundaries.

A lot of people who are low energy are actually just low on purpose.

The pain of acceptance is never as bad as the slow-burn, gnawing pain of denial.

You really can’t move forward until you have awareness of what’s true.

 

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EFR 453: You Turn - Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, and Design Your Dream Career with Ashley Stahl

Ashley Stahl is a counterterrorism professional turned highly sought-after career coach, TEDx speaker, Forbes blogger, podcaster, and author. In January 2021, she published her first book, You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, and Design Your Dream Career.

She illustrates her approach to getting “unstuck” as traveling from one lilypad to another. The first lilypad is where most people start out: They have a dream (or at least the outline of one) but are too afraid to take the next step thanks to the myriad of what-ifs plaguing their mind.

Getting over to the second lilypad is all about creating a “river channel” by figuring out your unique gift and learning how to harness your primary skillset. It’s about acknowledging that the key to getting unstuck in your career is to not do what you love, but to do what you are.

The third and final lilypad is “a level of dharma” achieved only after consistently putting that skillset into action. Ashley explains that “when you’re vibing in the current of your gifts, what happens is, on the periphery, people start noticing where you’re talented.” When you work only where you thrive, and you own your unique gift, opportunities naturally arise and your career creates itself.

Ashley goes on to share how to get clarity on your best career fit, uncovering your identity, nipping resentment at work in the bud and finding your purpose, and the biggest myths that keep you stuck in your career.

Follow Ashley @ashleystahl

Follow Chase @chase_chewning 

Key Highlights

  • Ashley explains how to get unstuck in life by hopping from the first lilypad to the second and to the third. She addresses the many challenges that everyone will encounter on their personal journey along the way.

  • What did Ashley carry over from her previous career in intelligence into her current work as a coach?

  • Ashley gives her thoughts on identity and why the search for who you truly are can be freeing or limiting depending on how you approach it.

  • How do you address burnout and regain a sense of purpose?

Powerful Quotes by Ashley

The ultimate message of my book is: Don’t do what you love. Do what you are.

Instead of hiring a bunch of life coaches, let life be your coach. [...] When you see your career as this vehicle of experimentation, as a vehicle of self-expression, what happens is you start saying “yes” to opportunities that are in the vein of where you’re gifted, and you start getting opportunities to really do something on a higher level.

Purpose moves. Who you are, moves. We’re not a static organism. I think it’s so important to give yourself permission to change. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to like something different. People don’t give themselves that because there is such a strong egoic desire to maintain an identity.

Buying into identities can free you as much as it can limit you.

Resentment is a sign of burnout. [...] Anytime you have resentment, what you really have is poor boundaries. Resentment is just feedback that you’ve trespassed on your own boundaries.

A lot of people who are low energy are actually just low on purpose.

The pain of acceptance is never as bad as the slow-burn, gnawing pain of denial.

You really can’t move forward until you have awareness of what’s true.

 

Episode resources:

Ever Forward Radio is brought to you by Operation Podcast

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  • How to easily build and optimize your host site, even get your first month for 

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  • How to submit to Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, & Stitcher

  • Microphone tutorials to help you pick the best equipment for your voice and recoding style of your show

  • Step-by-step editing for Garage Band and Adobe Audition to get your podcast sounding as professional as possible

  • Immediate affiliate sponsorship opportunities (start making money from you podcast right away!)

  • Learn how to use your podcast to drive traffic and sales to your existing products or services

  • FREE shipping, tech support, & 5% discount on all gear from Podcast Outfitters

  • Access to the Operation Podcast 201 private Facebook group to learn from and support your fellow podcasters, stay up to date with industry news and even learn from other professional podcasters through exclusive educational videos and live Q&A's

  • And so much more!!!

 Click here for 60% off the Level 201 course now with code EVERFORWARD60